Sex as a Topic of Controversy and Cultural Restriction

Sex is one of the most fundamental aspects of human existence, and yet it remains shrouded in societal taboos across the globe. Throughout history various cultures have placed restrictions and limitations on discussing and openly embracing sexuality. Regardless of how people feel about it, sex impacts society on its deepest level (after all, almost everyone wouldn’t be here without it!).

Reading (and writing) erotica is one way of engaging in conversations about human sexuality, especially if you’re from a culture where such topics are taboo.

So what are some of the reasons why sex is a touchy subject for some people?

Cultural and Religious Influences
Sex as a taboo is often rooted in cultural and religious beliefs. Many societies historically viewed sexuality as a private matter, reserved for marriage and procreation. Religious doctrines and cultural norms dictated strict guidelines on appropriate sexual behaviour, often condemning premarital or extramarital relationships. While to a lot of parts of the West today this seems a little outdated, there are still plenty of places where virginity is seen as a sacred thing that’s only given up after marriage.

Fear of the Unknown
The unknown and the unfamiliar often spark fear and discomfort in societies. Sexuality, being a deeply personal and diverse aspect of human life, can lead to uncertainty and unease. The lack of understanding and knowledge about sexual health and practices further perpetuates the taboo.

Misinformation and Stigma
Taboos surrounding sex have given rise to misinformation and stigma. Inadequate sexual education and the propagation of myths contribute to the perpetuation of harmful stereotypes and prejudices. This lack of knowledge can have severe consequences, leading to unplanned pregnancies, the spread of sexually transmitted infections and other health issues.

Gender Inequality
Sexual taboos can reinforce gender inequality, especially in conservative societies. Women, in particular, may face severe consequences for defying sexual norms. Their sexual freedom and choices may be restricted, leading to a perpetuation of patriarchal control over female bodies.

Impact on Mental Health
The suppression of open conversations about sex can have adverse effects on mental health. Individuals may feel shame, guilt, or anxiety surrounding their own sexuality due to societal judgment and stigma. The inability to express and explore one’s desires in a healthy and safe manner can lead to emotional distress and self-esteem issues.

Advocating for Comprehensive Sexual Education
Breaking the taboo surrounding sex requires advocating for comprehensive sexual education. Encouraging open discussions about human sexuality, consent, safe practices, and the importance of informed decision-making empowers individuals to make responsible choices and promotes a healthier attitude towards sex.

Fostering a Sex-Positive Culture
Promoting a sex-positive culture means embracing sexuality as a natural and healthy part of human life. Advocates of this movement encourage consent, mutual respect and open communication within relationships. A sex-positive culture seeks to destigmatise various sexual orientations and expressions, promoting an environment of acceptance and inclusivity.

Sex as a taboo has deep-rooted historical and cultural implications that continue to influence societies worldwide. Overcoming these taboos requires open and informed conversations about human sexuality, comprehensive sexual education, and a shift towards a sex-positivity. By shedding light on this sensitive topic and promoting respectful and inclusive dialogue, we can create a society that embraces sexual diversity and respects individual autonomy in making informed choices about their own bodies and desires.

Feminism in Erotic Fiction

Erotic fiction, a genre known for its exploration of human sensuality and desires, has evolved over the years to embrace feminist perspectives. Gone are the days of passive characters and objectification (thank god). Modern erotic fiction has redefined the narrative, empowering women as creators and protagonists, encouraging consensual relationships and challenging societal norms.

Feminist erotic fiction celebrates the strength and agency of female characters. No more one-dimensional stereotypes; instead, readers are introduced to empowered women who confidently embrace their sexuality and desires. These characters actively pursue their passions, making their own choices, and participating in consensual relationships that prioritise their pleasure and fulfilment.

One of the core principles of feminist erotic fiction is consent. Intimate encounters within the narrative are depicted as respectful, open, and founded on mutual agreement. By emphasising the importance of enthusiastic consent, these stories dismantle harmful narratives that perpetuate non-consensual behaviour and promote healthier representations of intimacy.

Feminist erotic fiction also challenges traditional gender roles and norms, providing a space to explore diverse identities and relationships. Writers often portray characters who defy societal expectations, subverting gender roles and embracing their authentic selves. This inclusivity encourages readers to question stereotypes and embrace a broader understanding of human experiences.

Sensual storytelling in feminist erotic fiction empowers women by validating their desires and fantasies. Instead of shame and secrecy, the genre encourages open discussions about pleasure, encouraging readers to explore and embrace their own sensual selves. By providing a safe space for these conversations, feminist erotic fiction fosters a more positive and liberating outlook on human sexuality.

It also has the potential to address social issues and challenge oppressive systems. By intertwining sensuality with discussions on consent, body positivity, sexual autonomy, and gender equality, these stories become a platform for advocating social change and promoting healthy relationships.


By celebrating the diversity of human experiences, writers ensure that stories encompass characters of various genders, sexual orientations, races and backgrounds. These narratives become more inclusive and representative of real-world diversity, and encourage empathy and understanding among readers.

Here are some examples of feminist erotic fiction:

The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, by Anne Rice (writing as A.N. Roquelaure): This book is part of a trilogy that reimagines the classic fairy tale of Sleeping Beauty with a focus on consensual BDSM relationships and themes of sexual exploration and power dynamics.

The Boss, by Abigail Barnette: This novel follows a female protagonist who enters into a romantic relationship with her billionaire boss, emphasising themes of consent, communication and agency.

Kushiel’s Dart, by Jacqueline Carey: This fantasy novel features a strong female protagonist who becomes a courtesan and spy, exploring themes of sexual freedom, empowerment and the celebration of diverse desires.

Slow Surrender, by Cecilia Tan: This novel portrays a consensual power dynamic between a young woman and a dominant man, exploring themes of BDSM, consent and self-discovery.

The Red, by Tiffany Reisz: This book tells the story of a female art student who enters a sensual world of dominance and submission, navigating complex power dynamics and embracing her desires.

S.E.C.R.E.T., by L. Marie Adeline: The novel follows a woman who becomes part of a secret society that empowers women to explore their sexual fantasies and desires, focusing on themes of sexual agency and liberation.

The Sexy Librarian’s Big Book of Erotica, edited by Rose Caraway: This anthology features various short stories written by women authors, exploring feminist themes, diverse perspectives, and positive sexual experiences.

Beyond Shame, by Kit Rocha: Set in a post-apocalyptic world, this novel follows a strong female protagonist who navigates a society where sex work is embraced and women’s desires are celebrated.

The Siren, by Tiffany Reisz: This book follows a female erotica writer who becomes entangled with a dominant editor, exploring themes of creativity and power.

Exploring Power Dynamics Between Characters

Among the myriad elements that shape a compelling story, power dynamics between characters play a pivotal role. This is perhaps even more apparent in erotic fiction or depictions of sex. Power dynamics create tension and drive plot progression, and offer insights into the human psyche. I want to talk about how power dynamics in fiction can heighten drama and deepen character development, adding layers to your storytelling.

Power dynamics refer to the ever-shifting balance of control, influence and authority between characters. This dynamic can manifest in various forms, such as physical power, social status, emotional manipulation or intellectual prowess. Identifying the source and nature of power within your characters is essential to creating authentic interactions and conflicts that resonate with readers.

Power struggles between characters are a fertile ground for generating conflict and tension. Whether it’s a battle for dominance, a clash of ideologies, or an internal struggle for self-discovery, power dynamics inject drama into the narrative, keeping readers engaged and invested in the outcome. When characters vie for control or liberation, their actions and decisions become the heart of the story’s conflict.

The dynamics of power can significantly impact a character’s growth and development throughout the story. Experiencing shifts in power may lead to personal transformations, as characters adapt, resist, or embrace their changing roles within relationships and society. These transformations add depth to characters, making them more relatable and compelling.

Power dynamics can also serve as a lens through which ethical and moral dilemmas are examined. When characters possess power, they face choices that test their integrity and sense of responsibility. Those in vulnerable positions may navigate difficult decisions in their quest for empowerment. This exploration of morality adds complexity and richness to the a story and provokes reflection in readers.

Subtle power dynamics can shape the subtext of a story, imbuing it with deeper thematic resonance. Themes of oppression, resilience, liberation, and corruption often emerge through the interactions between characters and the power structures they navigate.

While power dynamics can enhance fiction writing, it’s crucial to avoid falling into clichés and perpetuating harmful stereotypes. Subvert expectations by creating multidimensional characters who defy traditional roles and power structures. Embrace diversity in your characters’ backgrounds, experiences, and motivations, presenting a more inclusive and nuanced portrayal of power dynamics. It’s entirely possible to cause harm through thoughtless writing. Research and reading can help immensely.

Some common power dynamics you can find in erotic fiction include:

  1. Dominant and Submissive Relationships: This is perhaps the most prevalent power dynamic in erotica. It involves one character taking on the role of the dominant, who exercises control and authority, while the other character becomes the submissive, willingly relinquishing control and obeying the dominant’s desires.
  2. Master and Slave: This power dynamic explores the extreme end of dominance and submission, where one character has complete ownership and control over the other, often involving elements of bondage and discipline.
  3. Employer and Employee: Erotic fiction might depict a power dynamic between an employer and an employee, where one character holds authority and influence over the other, leading to situations of seduction or sexual tension in the workplace.
  4. Teacher and Student: This power dynamic explores the relationship between an instructor and a pupil, where the instructor has authority over the student, and sexual tension may arise from the forbidden nature of the relationship.
  5. Vampire and Human: In paranormal erotic fiction, the power dynamic between a powerful vampire and a mortal human can be explored, emphasising the allure of danger and the surrender of control to the vampire’s desires.
  6. Age Gap Relationships: This power dynamic involves characters with significant age differences, where one partner may have more life experience, wisdom, or social standing, leading to a power imbalance in the relationship.
  7. Royalty and Commoner: Erotic fiction might explore the power dynamics between a member of the nobility or royalty and a commoner, where societal status and privilege influence the dynamics of desire and submission.
  8. Sadism and Masochism: Some erotic fiction delves into the power dynamic of sadism and masochism, where one character derives pleasure from inflicting pain (sadist) and the other from receiving it (masochist).

By understanding the sources of power and its influence on character arcs, you can create authentic conflicts and thought-provoking dilemmas that resonate. Challenge stereotypes and embrace diversity, but approach important topics with sensitivity.

Classical Erotic Fiction

Eroticism has been an ever-present aspect of human culture throughout history. From ancient civilisations like the Greeks and Romans, who celebrated physical beauty and desire through art and literature, to the intricate erotic carvings of temples in India and the sensual poetry of medieval troubadours, expressions of sensuality have transcended time and societal norms.

Here is a list of some notable classical erotic fiction titles and their authors (I’ve provided links where these texts are available in the public domain).

Memoirs of Fanny Hill, by John Cleland (1748). This novel follows the life and sexual adventures of the titular character, Fanny Hill, and is considered one of the earliest examples of erotic literature in English.

Delta of Venus, by Anaïs Nin (1977) – A collection of erotic short stories written by Anaïs Nin, known for its sensuality and exploration of human desires.

The Story of O, by Pauline Réage (1954) – This controversial novel depicts the submissive journey of a young woman named O in the world of BDSM.

Lolita, by Vladimir Nabokov (1955) – While not strictly classified as erotic fiction, this novel explores the controversial and taboo relationship between a middle-aged man, Humbert Humbert, and a young girl, Dolores “Lolita” Haze.

Justine, or The Misfortunes of Virtue, by Marquis de Sade (1791) – This novel is part of the Marquis de Sade’s controversial and sexually explicit body of work, exploring themes of libertinism and sadomasochism.

The Satyricon, by Petronius Arbiter (circa 1st century AD) – This ancient Roman work contains erotic episodes and is considered one of the earliest examples of erotic fiction in Western literature.

The Kama Sutra, by Vātsyāyana (circa 3rd century AD) – Although primarily a text on human sexuality and relationships, this ancient Indian work has influenced erotic literature across cultures.

Teleny, or The Reverse of the Medal, attributed to Oscar Wilde (published anonymously in 1893) – This novel is attributed to Oscar Wilde and depicts a homoerotic relationship between its characters.

Venus in Furs, by Leopold von Sacher-Masoch (1870) – The novel explores themes of dominant-submissive relationships and female dominance, contributing to the development of the term “masochism.”

Emmanuelle, by Emmanuelle Arsan (originally published in French in 1967) – A sensual and explicit novel that follows the sexual awakening and adventures of a young woman in Thailand.

Gamiani, or Two Nights of Excess, by Alfred de Musset (1833) – This novella delves into the passionate and intense sexual encounters between three characters: Countess Gamiani, Fanny, and Alcide.

The Pearl, by Anonymous (published in 1879-1880) – A collection of erotic stories, often described as Victorian erotica, that explores various themes of sexual desire, exploration and taboo.

Important! Classical erotic fiction may contain explicit content and themes that reflect the attitudes and norms of the time in which they were written. It is essential to approach these works with an understanding of their historical context and personal sensibilities. It won’t be for everyone, so a little research is suggested before you dive in.

I Can’t Stop Writing About Witches

So I’ve been looking through the stories I’ve had published, plus my WIPs, and I’m noticing a pretty strong theme: witches. I never intended to write about them so much, but there they are in Refrain, Bearskin, plus three works-in-progress I’ve got on the go right now.

But I realised that I write about self-sufficient and independent women in almost all of my stories, so I guess it shouldn’t surprise me. Witchcraft is an age-old practice often cloaked in mystery (and, unfortunately, misconceptions). In a lot of fiction, witches emerge as powerful and enigmatic figures, embodying the essence of feminism and empowerment. I want to highlight how these characters challenge traditional gender roles and celebrate female autonomy.

Witches break stereotypes and challenge norms. They are more than just evil enchantresses (usually) or passive damsels in distress, their characters breaking away from limitations and defying traditional gender roles imposed by society. Witches are often depicted as strong and resourceful, subverting norms and advocating for female empowerment.

Witches also embrace feminine power, often harnessing a unique brand of magic, one deeply tied to intuition, empathy and emotional intelligence. Through spellcasting and potion making, they show wisdom and will, offering a potent alternative to traditional male-dominated displays of power.

There’s an element of female camaraderie and support in witchcraft to. Many stories highlight the importance of sisterhood and close female relationships. Whether forming covens or mentoring younger witches, these narratives emphasise the significance of a supportive female group.

Nature plays a big factor in witchcraft and witches almost always have a profound connection with nature. They are attuned to its rhythms and secrets. Their ability to commune with the elements and embrace animals and herbal knowledge symbolises a deep respect for the environment and a celebration of the Earth’s life-giving force.

Throughout history, women have been accused of witchcraft and were persecuted for their knowledge and independence. In fiction, witches can reclaim their identity and turn the tables on oppression. They can rise above adversity and embrace their powers with pride and resilience.

Witchcraft celebrates the concept of autonomy, making your own choices and decisions without the constraints of societal expectations. Through mystical abilities, these characters forge their own destinies and navigate their paths with agency and determination.

In many narratives, witches serve as a catalyst for change and progress, sparking revolutions and challenging oppressive systems. Their magic becomes a metaphor for societal transformation, encouraging readers to question existing power structures and strive for positive change.

I love witchy stories because they extend far beyond magic and potions. They often show empowerment and feminism and encourage readers to embrace their own unique strengths. And this is why I’ll continue to write about witches of all types in my fiction.

New erotic story: Bearskin, available now

Thrilled to announce that my short dark fantasy / shapeshifter erotic story Bearskin is now live at TRASHsandwich, in issue #13! You can read the full issue here. (It works on a donate-what-you-want system, so even if you’re strapped for cash you can still access the delicious erotica.)

ALSO, and totally unexpected, Bearskin has been nominated for the Pushcart Prize 2024! This is my first ever nomination for my writing and… I’m still processing, but whee!

Read Bearskin here in issue #13 of TRASHsandwich.

Thank you again to the editors at TRASHsandwich for believing in my little story and publishing it, and for the Pushcart nomination (still can’t believe it!). ♥︎

New Story: Fear of Shallow Living | Erotic Fantasy

My short erotic fantasy selkie story is now live at The Erozine! You can read it for free online (plus all of the other stories and poems from the Post-Nut Clarity issue):

Fear of Shallow Living, by V. A. Cates.

The Foremothers spoke in long and low whale-moans of the Landlings and their penchant for material things, of their will to conquer and their carnal desires. This was a knowledge passed down through generations, sister-to-sister, learned from the siblings of those unfortunate enough to be caught. To be bound to a Landling was a waking death to her kind.

She had to do something, and fast.

I hope you enjoy it! Read the story free online here. And many thanks to The Erozine for publishing my writing!


Story Acceptance: Fear of Shallow Living (Erotica)

I have a new short erotic story coming out soon at The Erozine, a fantastic magazine of erotic prose and poetry set to a different theme each issue. Issue 07 will be launched on December 8th so keep an eye out for it.

My story is called Fear of Shallow Living and is a bittersweet piece about a selkie and a man, spanning many years and a life-long lust. It’s only 1,500 words long but I really enjoyed writing it (I’ve always wanted to write a selkie story!). I’m also incredibly excited to have a story in The Erozine because I love how they approach erotica from a more unique and literary perspective.

I’m so excited right now! I’ll post again with a link to the issue when it launches.

Love Erotica? Read Circlet Press Anthologies

I know, I know, I talk about Circlet Press a lot, but it has published some of the best erotic fiction in my opinion, and if you love erotica but you haven’t read any of Circlet’s offerings yet, you’re missing out.

Circlet Press have released numerous anthologies that explore the intersection of sensuality, fantasy and science fiction. I always think that short stories are a good place to start because you are more likely to find something you love, without the time investment of reading an entire novel. It’s also a great way to discover erotic writers you might not have heard of before.

Here are a few to get you started:

Best Fantastic Erotica – Erotic sf/f combines erotic and sexual themes with magic, futurism, high fantasy, cyberpunk, space opera, magic realism, and all the many other sub-genres.

Like a Love Triangle – A collection of erotic stories for those who love threesomes, whether in real life or in the realm of imagination.

Charming: Modern Gay Erotic Fairytales – From poisoned apples to polished swords, classic fairy tales are full of sexual imagery. For this anthology, writers found those erotic threads and wove them into stories where the castle is an apartment building in Prague, or the Evil Queen is The Prince’s ex-boyfriend.

Queerpunk – Queerpunk, with its collection of stories that revel in a near-futuristic vision of our own time, investigates the evolution of Queer sexuality under the smog-covered umbrella of urban and technological advancement.

Superlative Speculative Erotica – A collection of stories that reflect many of the genres published by Circlet Press: a little cyberpunk, a little high fantasy, a touch of horror, some superheroes, a bit of space opera, some paranormal.

Apocalypse Sex – With their own demise staring them in the face, the characters in Apocalypse Sex decide to do one thing: have the best sex of their lives. These stories include a range of settings, tones, and sexualities, but they share the feeling of freedom that impending death can provide.

Like a Sword – These are tales of mages and magic, of warriors and princes and forest folk. But not all battles are won with armies, and magic finds its power not just in heart and soul but in body and desire.

And an honourable mention (because I loved the stories in this one, and I also have a story in this one):

Like a Spell: Air – Original stories of magic users, interesting twists on the typical sorcerers and mages. With smut.

Erotic Poem | Stygian, by V. A. Cates

In this chasmic realm
my ink is my weapon,
not my song–no;
songs are for above the waves,
to lure sailors
with their engorged cocks
and their ropey limbs
and their salt-crusted faces,
sweaty and uncomprehending,
until it’s too late.

Silent currents coil
and uncoil like octopus limbs.
Here, my arms are strong
my fins like sickles,
as I swim him down
through unfathomable dark,
to stygian depths.
My kin avert their eyes;
Another one, they chant,
another for her collection.

Into my shipwreck I steer him,
into my bed of silt I lay him.
The slits at my throat filter oxygen–
his precious currency–
so I kiss his frigid lips and breathe
a gasp into him that he
releases, his shaft jerking in my webbed fingers
One final triumph of man.
I’m gentle, unlike my monstrous ancestors;
their scorn is not my scorn.

We do not remember why
we were cursed to lure men into the sea.
There was a reason, once, long ago
lost now to the centuries.
His seed rises, a broken string of pearls,
while I fill him with my ink,
ejecting it into his open mouth,
to preserve him,
until the next one,
because I hate to be alone.

© V. A. Cates, 2023.

John Donne’s “The Flea”: A Metaphysical Exploration of Love and Seduction

The Flea by John Donne is a remarkable poem from the 17th century that embodies the essence of metaphysical writing. Donne uses wit and elaborate conceits to explore the themes of love and seduction and the interplay of physical and spiritual desires vs societal pressures on woman at the time. I want to talk about The Flea’s intricate metaphorical layers and look at how Donne uses his poetic kills to bring to life a conceit that sounds ridiculous on the outset.

The poem centres around a flea that bites both the speaker and his lover, serving as a metaphor for physical union and the intertwining of bodily fluids. Donne uses this small, insignificant insect as a vehicle to create a vivid and provocative analogy between the flea’s mingled blood and the act of sex. The flea becomes a tangible representation of their physical and emotional connection, and he uses this to challenge her on her reluctance to indulge him.

Mark but this flea, and mark in this,   
How little that which thou deniest me is;   
It sucked me first, and now sucks thee,
And in this flea our two bloods mingled be

John Donne: The Flea

This persuasive rhetoric is designed to woo his lover. I’ve got to be honest here, I always found The Flea a little questionable in terms of consent. It’s clear that the lover doesn’t want to frivolously give up her virginity to him because of the societal pressures on women at that time, although the speaker is persistent and uses various methods to persuade her to give in. He argues that killing the flea would be the same as destroying their newfound unity, and since their blood is already mixed inside the insect, they might as well have sex.

The flea’s diminutive and harmless nature contrasts with the implications of the poem’s themes. While the flea is innocent, it becomes a vessel of the lover’s guilt, symbolising the societal taboos of physical intimacy outside marriage during Donne’s time. His audacity to employ such an unconventional conceit showcases his wit and boldness in presenting love as a natural force, unbounded by social restrictions. Donne was a bit of a rebel.

Ultimately, Donne’s poem showcases a desire to break social norms, if in a rather juvenile way – essentially, a guy is talking about a gross little bug to try and get his lady to shag him, playing down the significance of her virginity. It speaks of the mindset of the time, when a woman’s virginity was a prized thing that was to be saved until marriage, but also makes some interesting contrasts that might better fit the modern day, where the importance of virginity has less of an impact in many societies. But the speaker isn’t keyed into how vastly different the implications are for women compared to men (and again, this is where his immaturity and carnal desires show clearly).

Cruel and sudden, hast thou since
Purpled thy nail, in blood of innocence?   
Wherein could this flea guilty be,
Except in that drop which it sucked from thee?

John Donne: The Flea

Yeah, she squashed it. Poor flea.

The lover isn’t buying the conceit, and expresses that killing the flea hasn’t changed them in any way. But the speaker persists, agreeing that yes, killing the flea has had no significant impact on them, and so – yeah you’ve guessed it – why not just have sex?

We don’t know if she eventually relents because it’s not the point of the poem. Instead, we’re left considering perceived rules that are forced upon us from a young age, and whether or not those rules make any real sense in the grand scheme of life.

You Kiss Your Mother With That Mouth?

I want to talk about explicit language in erotica. Now, I also want to preface this by saying that I don’t believe an erotic story needs explicit language to be sensual or sexy. But sometimes it’s just nice to have some raw, physical descriptions. Used effectively, they can really pack a punch.

Explicit language can set the tone for a passionate and sensual journey for your readers. If you carefully craft explicit descriptions – and give them as much thought as you would any other descriptive language – you can engage readers on a more visceral level and allow them to immerse themselves fully in the character’s desires. Like with any convention in writing, moderation is key. Explicit language should be used to enhance the passion, not choke it with throbbing members and dripping bits to the point where your reader isn’t sure how many appendages a character has.

Unfiltered language can be a powerful way to convey emotional depth and vulnerability, too. By expressing the characters’ desires and fears in an unfiltered way, you create a profound connection between readers and your protagonists. You can also use it to emphasise the importance of communication and consent in sex. By showing an open and enthusiastic dialogue between characters, you underscore the significance of consent and mutual pleasure, promoting healthy and positive portrayals of intimate relationships.

Like I said above, moderation is key, and you need to be mindful that you’re striking a balance when using explicit terms. Sensuality and storytelling should go hand-in-hand. Gratuitous use of language without a well-crafted narrative might alienate readers. It’s no fun if it feels like you’re simply reading a shopping list of body parts. But focusing on building well-rounded characters and plots, you can use explicit language to enhance the story and complement the narrative, rather than having it be the sole focus (yes, even in dirty-talk kink stories!).

Let’s face it, swearing and using explicit terms can be empowering, especially if we aren’t used to – or able to – speak that way in our everyday lives. For writers, it can provide an outlet to express their creativity and analyse the intricacies of human sexuality. For readers, it offers an opportunity to explore certain taboo subjects and celebrate the intimacy of explicit dialogue and prose.

In short, don’t be afraid to describe things in a more raw and visceral way, just be mindful of when, where and how often you use explicit words and descriptions. Find a good balance and your erotica will shine.

The Allure of Erotic Fiction

Why do you read erotic fiction? As a literary genre, it’s steeped in sensuality and passion and desire, shining a light on many of our darkest, deepest emotions. It’s one of those genres that has a timeless allure and has reached readers across the ages, from ancient civilisations like Mesopotamia and Ancient Greece, where explicit poems and stories celebrated love and desire, to the bold works of Renaissance writers like Boccaccio and Chaucer, who explored themes of sexuality and human passions. The 18th and 19th centuries saw the rise of clandestine erotic literature, often circulated privately, that pushed the boundaries of societal norms. In the 20th century, the genre embraced a more open and liberated expression, with authors like Anaïs Nin and Henry Miller gaining prominence for their candid exploration of sensuality.

Today in our digital age, we have democratised access to erotic fiction. Writers and readers can engage with the genre more openly, and celebrate the complexity of human intimacy in far more diverse and inclusive ways.

Beyond its explicit nature, erotica weaves intricate tales of human connections and explores the complexities of intimacy and emotions – the raw components of desire. So what is it about erotica that we can’t get enough of?

Power and Imagination

Erotica is a realm where the imagination knows no bounds. The genre transcends the limitations of reality, creating vivid and enticing worlds that allow readers to explore their own fantasies. When you engage with erotic lit, you are free to explore emotions that might not be openly discussed in your everyday life.

Celebrating Human Intimacy

At its core, erotic fiction celebrates human intimacy in all its forms. When you lay bare your characters’ desires and insecurities, it allows readers to look into a mirror of their own relationships. Through storytelling, we empathise with each other’s struggles and joys, triumphs and failures, which leads to a more profound connection with the narrative and characters, and a greater understanding of ourselves.

Liberation and Empowerment

Erotica can be a liberating force like no other! It encourages you to explore your sexuality and desires. It can be empowering to read about characters who embrace their sensuality and passions without shame or judgement (something many of us worry about, to varying degrees). Through reading erotic fiction, we might find the courage to accept and celebrate our own unique sexual identities.

Emotional Resonance

Beyond the obvious physical allure of erotica, it explores themes of love and longing, heartache and personal growth. A nuanced erotic story often has at least one of these themes woven into its narrative, which helps the story to resonate with readers on a more emotional level. You want your readers to think about your story long after they’ve finished reading it, and threading the sex with all the complex and varied emotions that come with physical intimacy you’re far more likely to leave a lasting impact.

Exploring Taboos

Erotica gives you a safe space to explore taboo subjects, complex power dynamics, submission and dominance, all in a safe and consensual way. It’s a fantastic way to navigate themes that make you curious and intrigued but you might not feel comfortable revealing in your personal life.

Empathy and Inclusion

Erotica isn’t limited to a singular expression of sex or sensuality. It embraces diverse perspectives and represents various sexual orientations, genders and cultural backgrounds. Inclusivity fosters empathy and understanding in writers and readers alike. It broadens readers’ horizons and challenges social norms.

The power of erotic fiction lies in its ability to give us a platform to explore sides of ourselves we often keep hidden from the world. It allows us to encounter emotional and physical landscapes that resonate within us (or turn us off, which is fine too).

For writers, erotica gives us an opportunity to craft stories that transcend boundaries and empower our readers to embrace their authentic selves. This is why I don’t think erotica is going anywhere anytime soon.